I can’t let him go

Despite all my whinging about not having a life , LO keeping me from doing anything , me adding a ton of weight , my feet expanding and then decreasing, it turns out, I do like being a mum :-). Who would have thought hey!

Mum mum is visiting for three weeks and she offered to take my son away for a while. With my husband being away she felt it might ease up the stress so I can just relax and go to work. At first I was excited at the FREEDOOOOOOMMMMMM, however when I took a look at the calendar, I realised LO will be away for 3 weeks if I let her take him. 3 WHOLE WEEKS. 

She said he will be potty trained, standing in line, speaking properly and probably reciting the alphabet in Latin and Greek in that time. I know she is right but I just can’t let him go for 3 weeks when he has never been away even for a night. I thought it will be an easy thing to do (letting him go). I was quite surprise that I couldn’t do it. Anyway, I need to lose weight and he definitely keeps me fit with all the running around after him.

Besides I am an angel, I don’t want to lose my wings

Yep! I am an angel

Yep! I am an angel


I have been so busy, I haven’t had time to write. I miss it so much, but I haven’t done anything exciting that I feel is worth sharing (I might have but I am too lazy to share it, lol) I did have a few ideas for posts, I started a few but didn’t get to finish them off.

Last month was indeed a busy month

  • I moved house
  • Changed minder – Very scary my LO has been with his previous minder since he was 8 weeks old and we absolutely adore her. She is such a blessing.
  • My daddy came to visit – Yes, I am a total daddy’s girl
Grandpa, LO & I

Grandpa, LO & I (shelovestorant)

  • My manager went on what seems like an endless holiday so I am saddling 3 accounts at the same time. Phew!
  • My hubby moved to Scotland – Seems like we hardly ever live together. While he was in London I put on a lot of weight. I guess with him around I was eating properly. We shared pick up and drop off so I didn’t have to wake up so early. In general, I was more relaxed and as a result piled on the pounds. With him gone for a while I guess the manic schedule returns, I will definitely be too tired to eat so hurray! at least I will lose some weight (silver lining :-))
  • I also discovered from my husband when he went to set up his account that Lloyds TSB had changed its name to Lloyds Bank. Lloyds Bank and TSB will now have their own branches on the high street. I was worried about my internet banking cause I really didn’t have the time to go into the bank and request new logins and things. My internet comes on today at the new place and thankfully my previous login still works. But I guess a time is definitely coming when everything will go separate .

I like their quirky video on the new TSB

Thankfully my mum is visiting for 3 weeks. So I still have some rest time on my hands. That why I can write this post. She is absolutely brilliant with LO.  I am always moaning about how I don’t have family in the UK ,so its brilliant that she is here. She has gotten my son back on a schedule and she has started potty training him. Hurray for Grandma

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Help! I Am Losing Weight

Anyone who knows me will have heard me at some point ranting about how I need to lose weight.  So I forgive you for thinking I should be overjoyed that I am finally losing some weight.  Well I am, to an extent. I am happy to be losing the weight on my body but its the weight or swelling on my feet I am not so happy about. When I got pregnant my feet went half a size up from a 7 to 7.5 (40 -41) and stayed that way even after birth. I ranted and raved about it but since I didn’t know of any exercise to trim down your feet I shut up and accepted it.

When LO turned one I finally accepted that I was now a size 7.5 gave up my old shoes and proceeded to restock after all who won’t snap up an opportunity to shop, right? Now a year and 9 months later the weight or swelling has dropped off my feet and I am back to a size 7 aaarrrrrgggghhhhhh!  I have tried shoe pads, stuffing, nothing is working, the shoes just keep slipping off my feet.

leopard skin 6 inch heel

shelovestorant in 6 inch heels

According to the March issue of the American Journal of Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation, Doctors believe the arch of the foot flattens out, and in turn, the foot length increased between 2 and 10 millimeters (about 0.1 to 0.4 inches) possibly due to the extra weight and increased looseness of the joints associated with pregnancy . This loss of arch height is most likely permanent. The article also claims that this could lead to arthritis later in life so I should be happy that my feet has gone back to a 7.

I used to be the queen of 6 inch heels, I even wore them when I was pregnant till the very end (the week I gave birth) however, after giving birth I  gradually started to feel pain in heels. I am not even sure when this started.  It might be because I have a toddler or maybe I finally have to accept that I am getting old. I find myself putting my shoes on Ebay after one wear.  I can’t believe I am saying this but I can’t wait for winter maybe tights would help. Don’t know what else to do. I need help!

I Forget My Favourite Disney Character “cough” “cough”

Disney Infinity Characters

I lie ha! ha! I can still remember wanting to be a Disney princess, hanging my braids out of the window and belting out  “A whole new world” at the top of my voice wishing that someday my love would be here and somehow I know that he’ll take care of me me ……. Fast track the years and I can’t remember the last Disney movie that was released. Hubby hates cartoons and I can’t even get LO to watch TV.

I know in a few months’ time superhero’s would be my life, I would literary be buried in cartoon characters. LO is already singing “toki toki litter star, how a wata wa tu are”. This is a vast improvement from last months “wild wild” a tribute to Jesse Jay or “chop a moni” a tribute to all the African party’s he has been to. Last Christmas was spent with LO cousin who had a chronic spider-man fascination. I call it chronic because he refused to take of the spider-man mask all day. He (LO cousin) was going to wear it to sleep, eat and bath if he could help it. His mum was both worried and annoyed, it was a constant battle all through the day.

I can picture that being me in a couple of months. I wonder which of these will be his chronic fascination.

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Lunch Box (Hot or Cold Menu) – Chicken Wrap

lunch box recipie request

My sister posted this on Facebook yesterday and I have decided to chip in my own 2 pence. I am not really a fan of sandwiches, I find them incredibly boring. I am also a hot and quick food kind of girl. So chicken wrap easily fits the bill. It is super easy to make, needs about 40 seconds in the microwave to reheat, and if you want to eat it cold it’s still delish.

Chicken tortilla Wrap image from kraftrecipes

Chicken Tortilla Wrap image from kraftrecipes


  • Tortilla Wraps
  • Diced Chicken (can be substituted for prawns, minced meat, bacon)
  • Cabbage (sliced)
  • Mayonnaise
  • Butter (optional)
  • Cherry Tomatoes (super hard ones)


Stick the wrap in to the microwave for 1-2 minutes or stick it into the oven for 4 – 5 minutes. Cook and dice your chicken, slice your cabbage and tomatoes. Mix everything up with mayonnaise. Spread the tortilla wrap with butter or mayonnaise. Put a small portion in the centre of the wrap (enough so you can still roll it and close it up neatly). Serve warm or cold. Hubby likes his cold. You can also substitute the cabbage with rocket for a more exotic taste. You can also vary the ingredients – tuna and sweetcorn, corn beef and carrots ,bacon and eggs, avocado with sardines or salmon, the list is endless.

Curry Noodles For Toddlers – Busy Mums’ Recipe

Some of my friends asked me what I give my toddler for lunch.  So I decided to write a post on – my less than 10 minutes recipe. I am not sure if recipe is a good description because I only ever cook to taste. That is why there are very few African cook books if any.

If you have a toddler that doesn’t eat a lot this is a recipe that is packed full of nutrients so each spoon counts. It is also an improvement on the boring old noodles.

Curry Noodles from shelovestorant

Ingredients for 1 week of lunch

– 1 and half park of Indo Mie noodles ( you can substitute with baby pasta , any other noodle brand or rice. I use noodles when LO is teething as there is less chewing needed)

– 4 Big spoons of minced meat (boiled)

– 1 cup of milk

– 1 Spoon of butter

-1/4  Stock cube (or home-made stock)

– Mixed vegetables (blended or chopped depending on age)

– Cheese (optional)

– 1/4 teaspoon Caribbean Curry paste


Boil hot water. Break the noodles into the pot and allow to boil for 3 to 5 minutes (depending on the age of your baby and how soft you want it to be).  Drain out the excess water. Add the mixed vegetables ( I like these to be really soft if not LO doesn’t digest them), the stock, minced meat , cheese and the curry paste for flavour.

simplicity in less than 10 minutes

Is My Husband More Intelligent Than I Am?

YES! He is! Well according to the latest research on phone usage and personalities. The research  conducted by TalkTalk, which questioned 2,000 mobile users, concludes that iPhone users are vain and spend more on clothes and grooming (me) while blackberry users earn the most money and work less for it. They are most likely to be in long-term relationships and have the most friends (him).

The humble mobile phone is no longer just a communication device but a fashion statement and psychoanalysis tool. Sometimes, it’s easy to forget just how much technology has changed over the last few decades. We have moved from function technology to lifestyle technology. There are so many gadgets that have been displaced by the phone. I can’t remember the last time I checked my watch or used a calculator that wasn’t on my phone.

…….so girls next time you are checking a guy out or when swapping numbers check his phone. If he doesn’t use a blackberry run fast he is definitely not for keeps. And if you need fashion advice – please ask the iPhone user J (or just ask me, you know I consider my humble self a cat walk queen “cough cough”).

I rather like the android user who is the hardest worker in the bunch, loves to cook (Does frying egg count?), drinks (cocktails any one) and is creative (me! me! – read my blog lately). The only thing they missed out in the description is the fashion aspect. I am here to point out that android can be fashionable. Check out the catwalk lunch of the Xperia Z. I can definitely see myself up there struttin’ my stuff. Isn’t that what an ad is supposed to be, aspirational?

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Wedding Fever

I have a serious case of wedding fever. I have 4 weddings to attend over 2 months. All the weddings are of very close friends. I am getting excited over clothes, shoes , colours etc. and my bank balance is suffering but ladies you are worth it :-).

Anyways, this is my light-hearted 2 cents to my friends. If you want something more heavy you can read the OMG they are getting married series.. So here we go

1- Be happy

Don’t let the little things steal your joy. You are tidy – he is messy, so what? as long as you are together just enjoy it.
Dont let stupid things break your happiness

2- Have fun

Guard the fun in your relationship. Have a relationship where you can act like complete idiots together without being ashamed. Do not forget what you had before you got married. Do not let it get boring.
lets crawl under a big blanket and watch movies

3- Enjoy the change

Yes things have changed – you can’t hog the TV any more, you have someone snoring in your ears, you haven’t spoken to your friends in ages (including me). Keep calm and enjoy the change. That is life for you.
Things Change. And friends leave. and live doesn't stop for anyone

4- Be fulfilled

You wanted this, now you have it so shut up and be fulfilled.
choose to be fulfilled

5- Be complete
I cant say this enough. Let your spouse complete you – let them be enough for you. Don’t compare. Don’t waiver in your belief in them. Completely accept them. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to change bad behaviour. Love all aspects of them. It’s all those dynamics that makes them who they are.

two can be complete without the rest of the world

Love ya XOXO